This long-distance date is perfect for couples who want to have deep conversations and learn about each other’s personalities in more depth. The Enneagram test is a personality system that identifies nine different types, each with its core motivations, fears, and patterns of behavior. By understanding your Enneagram type and your partner’s, you can gain insight into how each of you thinks, reacts, communicates, and connects with others. It is a thoughtful way to spend a video call while building greater understanding and empathy in your long-distance relationship.
Instructions
Pick a time that works for both of you; use a time zone converter if needed.
Hop on a video call using Zoom, Google Meet, Discord, FaceTime, Microsoft Teams, or Skype
Go to Enneagram Test
Decide how you want to take the test:
- Share your screen and take turns answering the questions together, talking through each choice.
- Or take the test separately while staying on the call.
Complete the test and review your results together once finished.
After receiving your Enneagram type, search online for descriptions of the different Enneagram personalities
Talk about what feels accurate, what surprised you, and how these traits show up in your everyday relationship.
Elevate this date!
🧠Before revealing your results, guess each other’s Enneagram type and explain your reasoning
💬 Identify areas where you tend to conflict and use your Enneagram types to better understand each other’s reactions, needs, and communication styles
📖 Read more about your partner’s Enneagram result rather than your own, focusing on why they react or communicate in certain ways and how you can respond with more understanding.
🎉 For a lighter twist, finish the date with a BuzzFeed Quiz Party to play fun, random quizzes