This long-distance date idea is perfect for couples who love learning more about each other, comparing personalities, and discovering the psychology behind the way they think, feel, and approach different situations. Instead of taking completely random online quizzes, IDRlabs offers hundreds of personality and psychology tests, many of which are based on peer-reviewed scientific research and are created by experts in psychometrics.
Take the same tests, reveal your results over video call, and compare what you get. Some results may confirm things you already knew about each other, while others could surprise you or lead to conversations you would not normally think to have.
Instructions
Pick a time that works for both of you; use a time zone converter if needed.
Hop on a video call using Zoom, Google Meet, Discord, FaceTime, Microsoft Teams, or Skype.
Go to IDRlabs and browse through the available personality, psychology, intelligence, and character-based tests.
Choose a test that interests both of you and take the same test separately. Try not to show each other your answers while you are completing it so you do not influence each other’s results.
Tests to Try Together
🍯 The Pooh Test: Find out which Winnie the Pooh character your personality most closely resembles. The Pooh Pathology Test is based on the work of physicians Dr. Sarah E. Shea and Dr. Kevin Gordon, who examined the characters of Winnie the Pooh through a psychological lens.
🧠 The Intelligences Test: Compare the different ways you and your partner may be intelligent. This test is based on the work of developmental psychologist Dr. Howard Gardner, known for his theory of multiple intelligences. Rather than looking at intelligence as one single ability, the test explores your tendencies across nine different aptitudes. Compare your strongest areas and see whether you and your partner’s strengths are similar or completely different.
⚡ The Potter Test: Discover which Harry Potter character your personality most closely matches. This version uses the methodology of Dr. Sarah E. Shea and Dr. Kevin Gordon to compare your personality with characters from the Harry Potter universe.
⭐ The Big Five Test: For something more focused on personality science, take the Big Five Test together. IDRlabs describes the Big Five as the gold standard in science for personality measurement. Compare your results and see which traits you have in common and where your personalities are complete opposites.
💚 The Jealousy Test: Make things a little more relationship-focused with the Jealousy Test. IDRlabs describes this test as scientifically validated and based on the work of Drs. Pfeiffer and Wong. Compare your results and use them as a starting point for a conversation about how differently you may experience jealousy.
Once you have both finished, count down from three and reveal your results over video call.
Compare what you got and talk about whether you think the results actually describe you. Does your partner agree with your result? Did anything surprise you? Were you expecting your partner to score completely differently?
Do not rush straight to the next test. Use each result as a conversation starter and talk about how it might show up in your personalities, habits, or relationship.
Then take turns choosing the next test and continue for as many as you would like.
Keep in mind that IDRlabs includes both research-based assessments and tests that are simply for fun. Check the description of each test if you want to know how it was developed, and treat the results as a fun way to explore and start conversations rather than as a medical or psychological diagnosis.
Elevate this Date!
🏆 Take Them All! Turn this into an ongoing challenge and see if you can complete every test on the IDRlabs website together. Keep a shared note or spreadsheet with the name of each test and both of your results.
🔮 Predict Each Other’s Results. Before taking each test, write down what you think your partner will get. Reveal your predictions after seeing the real results and give yourself a point whenever you are right.
🎬 Watch Your Character Results. Some IDRlabs tests match your personality to characters from movies and shows, including Ratatouille, Winnie the Pooh, and Harry Potter. After you both get your results, turn it into another long-distance date by watching the movie or an episode together. Pay attention to your characters and decide whether you actually act like them.